All of us at one time or another say the word ‘hope’. All of us at one time or another have hope, give hope, and need hope. Unfortunately, some give up on hope. I can see the wheels turning in your head. Give up on hope…who would do that?
That would be those who need hope the most. The ones who have fallen so far down that they don’t believe they will ever get up. The ones who have suffered so severely, they feel they have fallen into the cracks…Those cracks where hope cannot live.
Have you ever felt that way? I mean so far down that you can’t even believe that such a word even exists…’Hope’ Is there really such a thing? Can one really dare to believe they can climb out of the whole they have fallen into?
Yes…they can. Why? Because there are people out there like you and me that can give hope to those who feel hopeless. I’m talking about the abused. The ones so terrified they dare not tell a sole what is being done to them.
Children, women, and believe it or not, men. Yes, I said men. Did you know that almost 20% of domestic violence victims are male? That is something men do not like to tell. That is why they lose hope. If no one knows though, no one can help. If you can’t tell a friend or family member because of humiliation, you can call the domestic violence hotline: 1-800-799-7233.
The next that lose hope are children. After all, if you can’t trust the people that love you, who can you trust? Children are afraid to tell on their parents and not just from themselves being abused, but from watching a parent be abused. They hear, they see, and they are afraid to tell for fear of making things worse or getting in trouble, so they lose hope. Don’t let this happen to them. If you know someone is being abused, make the call to the hotline for them and get advice on how to approach the victim and explain their options. It is sometimes rather difficult to get them to listen, especially if it’s a woman.
Women lose hope fast! Those that are domestic violence victims believe in their partner. They love their partner. They believe them when their partner says it will never happen again, and then it does. They keep having hope that their partner will change, but they never do…and slowly, hope begins to fade…then it disappears altogether. They believe that they are destined to live or die this way. They lose hope of being saved, of their partner changing, of saving their family.
You can give hope. You can restore faith. You can become a living hero. When you see the signs, talk to the victim when you can. It can be hard when a violent partner is suspicious, they will not allow their victim to communicate with others, but if you can reach out, do. Call the hotline for advice, that’s what they are there for. If you don’t want to call, you are welcome to talk to me, but I’m not a professional, I cannot always give the advice you want to hear. It will be the advice that you need to hear. To give hope, maintain hope, instill hope. There is hope. It begins with you.