Stop the Violence!

STOP THE VIOLENCE! Part One

It’s so easy for someone else to say “Stop the violence”, especially if they have never been through what you and I have.  I can say stop the violence because I went through it.  The night my husband attacked me had been the-most-terrifying-time of my life and afterward,  I thoroughly believed that filing a protective order would save and protect me.  I had never been so wrong.  Not even the police would help me.  My ex-husband’s attorney taught him to counter-file every charge I made against him when he would violate it.  He told him to make accusations against me, this would keep the police from wanting to get involved and it did.  Every time I called and complained he was at my house, he would counter that I had first come to his.  I called them one day after he was there at my home screaming profanities at me and the Sheriff’s deputy that showed up told me “You need to stop this yo-yo crap, we’re quite frankly getting tired of it and the two of you need to grow up.”  Now, imagine being the victim who is learning how to breathe without refracturing her sternum, this is not only heart-breaking, it’s literally terrifying, now you know that no one wants to help you, not even the police.

Now you can understand the meaning behind stop the violence  it’s about stopping the violence before it begins and getting those who are victims the real help they need.  Domestic violence isn’t a game, although the violator believes it is.  He/she believes that this is a game of control and he/she doesn’t want to lose.  They use every tactic available to them to keep you under control and make you look unbelievable.  DO NOT GIVE UP!  You can win this game because you are going to learn how to be a game changer in upcoming posts.  In the meantime, what you need to do is recognize the signs so the violence can be stopped before it even begins.

When you first met everything was coming up wine and roses.  You never knew happiness like this, but there were signs you didn’t recognize.  Not because you were supposed to, not everyone knows the signs.  When you began dating he/she didn’t start calling you names then.  He/she didn’t tell you to stay away from your friends, but they may have begun murmuring about you seeing them more than you do him/her.  They might have said something like “You see them all the time, I feel like you like them more than me.  Can’t you please tell them you can see them another time?  I need you, I need to see you.”  It makes you feel bad and you put off your friends.  So, to begin the STOP the VIOLENCE Campaign, don’t put your friends off.  This person you began dating knew you had your friends.  I’m sure you told them you all get together every Friday for lunch or drinks.  This shouldn’t stop because you’re dating someone.  If your significant other has no ulterior motive, then they will have no problem with you seeing your friends.  Invite him/her to go to and if they care about you, they will.  If they come up with an excuse as to why they can’t and you should be with them, you need to explain nicely that this is a continuously standing date with your friends and that your new partner’s friends are welcome to come along but your partner shouldn’t expect you to drop them.

If they come back with we see your friends but never mine, retort with, you and your friends are welcome to come to, the more the merrier.  If your partner doesn’t care for that, then tell them you can see your partner’s friends the next night.  If you keep getting flack, then this isn’t a relationship that’s going to work for your better.  This is beginning to look like an unhealthy start and you need to cut your losses.  I don’t care how sweet they are, there is more to it than what’s on the surface.  A partner who truly cares for you is willing to compromise, just as you would compromise with your partner.  If you decide to keep seeing your partner even after going through something like this, then you need to stay alert to further signs.  We need to STOP THE VIOLENCE.

A to Z Reflections

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As some of you may already know, I put myself to the A to Z Challenge for blogging during the month of April.

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Basically, it required participating bloggers to do a post every day focusing on each letter of the alphabet. Sundays were the only excluded days. As you can imagine, this was a lot of work.

So, what really compelled me to take on this challenge? Well, I have to give my talented author friend, Devika Fernando, some credit here. Last year, she took on the challenge with her blog and absolutely nailed it. Check out one of her posts here!

Therefore, this year it was with courage and a bit of fear that I said, sure, what the hell…I’ll try it too. I decided to use a rating system for each book I covered, almost like a book review but not quite the same.

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2015 news

The stats for the I Love Romance Blog are out, and they are AWESOME! 🙂

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OMG! 64,000 views in 2015? That’s phenomenal! Woo hoo! 😀

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2015 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

Madison Square Garden can seat 20,000 people for a concert. This blog was viewed about 64,000 times in 2015. If it were a concert at Madison Square Garden, it would take about 3 sold-out performances for that many people to see it.

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Review of Second Chance Heart by Marie Lavender

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Short and Sweet

Genre:  Short Stories, Contemporary Romance

Book Length (Est.): 35 pages

Book Description/Synopsis: 

After a wild storm forces her to take shelter in a small town inn, Dana Nelson thinks that all she has to worry about is a brief stay before she heads back to the city. She gets far more than she bargained for…

The last thing she expects is to run into an old flame, and even worse, the man who broke her heart twelve years ago. She’s sure that the only thing remaining between them is a strong attraction for another.

She can’t be more wrong…

The more time she spends with Vince Reynolds, the more she begins to believe she can trust him again. But, can she put her faith in the one man who captivates her, body and soul, or are some wounds too deep to heal? 

Mindy’s Review:

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NOTHING makes me see RED more than Animal Abuse

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NOTHING makes me see RED more than Animal Abuse. DON’T just like this post; PLEASE do your part and get a copy of Puggle Lynyrd Skynyrd ‘s book, “What’s Your Name? Life as a Rock ‘n’ Roll Dog” by Ed Gellock .

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Great 4 Star Review for Second Nature on Readers’ Favorite!

A nice review on Readers’ Favorite! 🙂

Marie Lavender- Multigenre Author

Hi, readers! Just wanted to let you know that I stumbled across this great review for Second Nature, book one of the Blood at First Sight Series, on Readers’ Favorite! So, thank you, Michelle! 🙂

Here is the review if you’d like to check it out…

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Second Nature
Blood At First Sight Book 1
by Marie Lavender
Fiction – Paranormal
194 Pages
Reviewed on 10/10/2015

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Reviewed by Michelle Randall for Readers’ Favorite

Alec is not your ordinary drop-dead handsome man, he is a vampire, and he smells the most amazing blood he has ever met. He is looking for it when he finds it at a festival. Desiree is a young woman with a broken heart and soul. She has been unlucky in love, but she thinks she is okay. Alec has to know more about her, he wants to know her, not just have a taste…

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Thoughtful, 5 Star Review for Second Nature!

A new review for Second Nature!

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Last Monday with…Marie Lavender!

A cool author interview on KateMarie Collins’ blog!

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NEW RELEASE – A Little Magick!

Marie Lavender- Multigenre Author

I am so excited to bring some awesome news to you today! A Little Magick, book two of the Magick Series as well as a kid’s fantasy, officially released today! Woo hoo! 🙂

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Here is the blurb for the book:

Little Rosie goes to stay with her uncle. There she meets some new friends…and some enemies. She doesn’t know that her emotions will trigger something unusual. So far from home, suddenly Rosie has become a full witch like her mother. For a time, it is great fun to use her powers the way she wants, but can Rosie figure out how to use these newfound powers for good or will she be lost to the dark side forever?

Here are the purchase links:

Amazon link: http://bookgoodies.com/a/B00YJSGE40

Smashwords: https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/547154

Barnes & Noble: http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/a-little-magick-marie-lavender/1122044476

Kobo: https://store.kobobooks.com/en-US/ebook/a-little-magick-magick-series-book-2

Add it to your Goodreads shelf:  https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/25652268-a-little-magick

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Please stop by the book release party today…

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#Cover-reveal. ‘A Little Magick’ by Marie Lavender (@marielavender1). Because sometimes a little magic goes a long way.

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Hi all:

As you know, on Friday I usually bring you new books and/or guest authors. It’s always with great pleasure that I can bring you new books by authors who have already visited my blog (as that proves that writing is alive and well). Today, Marie Lavender, who is not only a great writer but also an staunch supporter of other writers, has a cover reveal for her new book ‘A Little Magick’ and I’m very happy to be able to bring it to you.

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First, a little bit about Marie:

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Bestselling author of UPON YOUR RETURN and 20 other books. Poetry winner of the 2015 PnPAuthors Contest. Honorable Mention in the 2014 BTS Red Carpet Book Awards. Finalist and Runner-up in the 2014 MARSocial’s Author of the Year Competition. Honorable mention in the January 2014 Reader’s Choice Award. Liebster Blogger Award for 2013 and…

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